D is for

D is forI know it sounds bad to “Dump someone”, but sometimes self preservation insists!

Other people’s words are actually nothing to do with us and it’s actually all about them.  It’s their perceptions, what’s going on with them, how they are conducting their life and they might need help with this, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to do it!

If there’s a choice of who to share OUR life with, and if someone gives us the gift of them speaking their mind or in other ways show us into their world towards us and it’s all negative, driving us crazy and making our life a misery, then making a sound choice (based on that track record) means backing off.  Note however:  If there’s a possibility of physically abuse, you will need help to leave safely and to stay safe once you have left.Same thing playingI get the feeling, that to stay in a relationship out of choice with a D track record towards you is to enable them to do the same thing over and over.  They might become more of a [Bexy turned the air blue and went all EXPLETIVES] and they might think it’s okay to be [BEXY made the air turn blue again with EXPLETIVES].

An average life span is not that long and surely living it as an enabler to a [EXPLETIVE] is a pretty crappy existence, right? and So please beloved, don’t waste your time left on this beautiful planet, but have some compassion and kindness unto your sweet self as an Equal with others!

Beloved [EXPLETIVE] be warned, if you know your being [EXPLETIVE] do something about your perceptions, question your thinking, get help, speak gratitude, get a new attitude, because if you piss people off enough, they might piss off and stay that way.

How are you?

If you ask me this question, most times I am totally willing to tell you, so beware of that.  If you want to be a part of my life, if I want to be a part of yours, then we have to communicate what’s going on in there (Bexy points mentally to her head).  That’s how interpersonal relationships and support structures are made, kept and developed.  Thing is, it takes more than one person to communicate effectively, it takes at least two:

  1. TalkerTalkers


  1. ListenerListeners

Most of all it takes both sides

to swap roles



Outside memory stick

Let’s face it, I use this blog not so much to share with the world and all who sail on her as you would think, but there’s a little bit more of this being used as an outside memory stick.  To put things down (was just about to type “on paper”) so to speak.  You see, not only might I bump my noggin one day in the garden weeding or when prancing about belly dancing in the lounge laughing, but maybe being my outspoken self {{{giggles}}} when some (we won’t use expletives so early in the morning) might take it on themselves to bash me on the noggin believing their stressful thoughts about me or because of their own unmet needs as they might feel obliged to be a violent (and again we won’t use expletives so early in the morning) and to be honest I bloody well pity the buggers.  

So maybe this blog is a bit like for future reference, saving my ideas… oh geez, I was so close to using that four letter swear word @?!#!~ BANK ~@?!#!  

Oh wait:  “Why share?”  Well let’s face it not many are reading this, but still:  The World needs random kindness words, vegan recipes, peaceful thoughts shared etc and the like… regardless!  For the most part this is semi anonymous and is semi log book, semi how~to that you can pick up or put down at leisure.  Will anyone read it?  I just did (as I wrote it).  It was okay, I liked what I typed and who I am to judge thoughts that are like flying insects that land where they will.  I do however work at being kind, not only to others, but also to myself and I recommend that to anyone as a good life to practice, practice, practice that kindness and compassion.  We can all get angry, upset seeing the unkind and the uncompassionate, but we might be them if we don’t question our thoughts.

Basically, don’t just “Get a life” but “Get into being a kind life and live out that adventure, practising kindness to the very end!”

a kind life.


The French translation bit:

Une = A

Vie = Life

Compatissante = Compassionate

Seeing the truth

Do we need other facts than those we see before us, to change the way we behave?

forgottenNot sure who the artist is, but took a snap of this painting from someone’s “farceblock” page that I’m a friend of a friend of…  Here is what was on the next image:





I currently still seem to find things to glean in the darkest of places and not just physical things in the dust.  Living a questioned life, turning some things off and turning some things on.

The job


Whatever happened in the past, is what it is and has passed.  We cannot go back.  Of course we all learn from how things panned out, but cannot go back and change that.  Going forward, living in the now is the job in hand.  Making things, enjoying things, being awesome is the job in hand.


Right then, where to begin?  Firstly I will not inflict images of horrors (not even using words), but that there are horrors around the world inflicted on sentient beings, all the time around this planet.

That is why we all need to support laws to end them and not to buy products made via abusing, torturing, genetically altering… animals (which include humans).  The planet (all countries) need us to be responsible (response~able), having seen or heard of the horrors, respond in kindness and put an end to it.  Humans need to evolve and turn away from the causes of suffering and that includes turning away from eating death and learning the healthier options.

As a friend has typed to the Internet world:

‘Consider yourself humanitarian, pro human rights or even a compassionate human being? by the end of each day, 4500 children will have died due to lack of access to water… Coincidentally that’s the same number of litres of water required to produce a 300g steak.’

There really is a more delicious veggie cuisine full of goodness and mercy.  This is one of the best steps anyone can take in their own lifetime towards the human race evolving.