On being sad

On being sad

Those who turn around sadness are heroes, be it other’s sadness or their own.

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Threats perceived

Perceived threat mildWe’re all going to react to threats in different ways.

How we react will be an indication of where we are in relation to the threat,

who we are at the time and how we perceive everything.

Perceived threat massive

The threat suddenly appears or creeps up to us and we will react.

There is then a great need to perceive things as compassionately as possible

and not to waste any time we have, living in fear or being cruel.  World earth

Two words with their differences and yet the same:  World / Earth.   Two words with their differences and yet the same:  Me / You.

I feel that anyone who knows how to keep the sanctity of peace around them, please step up your game.

Peace of Space

SkyTo crave a “peace” of space to call their own as others sit alone who have got just that.

As many have sang:

From a distance we all have enough
And no one is in need
And there are no guns, no bombs and no disease
No hungry mouths to feed

From a distance you look like my friend
Even though we are at war
From a distance I just cannot comprehend
What all this fighting is for

Here it is in full From a distance sung by Bette Midler

Adaptability, a must have skill!

I always use adaptability in all that I do, as adaptability is the one thing that keeps me from going completely insane and taking everyone around with me!  It’s one of my core skills.  You see I find my life (maybe yours is the same too) is dotted with batches of unpredictable events.  Some hilarious, some very sad, some remarkably joyful and others I just use the letters WTF!  More often than not I can seem very puzzling to the onlooker, especially when events go from one extreme to the other in a very short time and I cope by assuming a stoic look. 

Take for instance just a few (not all) of the things that has happened this week:

Injera imageA few days back, I did a Skill Share presenting ancient grains, seeds and some premade batter for injera (it takes 3 days to ferment).  I did make a few plans to help others make sweet potato roti  (I always call doti) breads and lahoh, from scratch.  However, on arrival to the kitchens, I found there were no frying pans!  I had mentioned adaptability earlier about the flour choice, so it also came into play for the utensils.  I’d brought oil with me, so we used the heavy duty roasting pans (which took an age to wash up after).  So there was no panic see,  and it ended up being an enjoyable evening making things to have a taste of, with some happily taking some mishmash roti breads and some lahoh dough to try cooking when they got home.

Adaptability from planned to modify

CasperWarning:  This part goes a different way!  With no prep the next day, myself and my lovely daughter had to adapt to the horrors and the honour to be with our beloved old pony whispering to him as a kind professional young vet came and compassionately put him under anaesthetic and then when he was under, an overdose to put him down.  Our beloved was unpredictably suffering and now thankfully he can never suffer ever again.

Then of course the next day after that comes.  Our beloved’s beautiful body has to be discarded and I was told by my vet that I wouldn’t have to stay.  Yet when the “One who has lost some connections with sentient beings” (probably due to his bloody shitty job) came, he made it out that it wasn’t the case.  I had to adapt to get the job done and offer to help pull our beloved’s body out of the stable myself with my son.  The man flipped the body over like it was nothing and like it was what he does all the time, got the body out of the stable within seconds on his own.  Therefore I started to assume things and decided NOT to pursue this line of thought, but I’m still working on that! Then of course, as I drove home the car suddenly sounded like a tractor/motorbike and the exhaust had detached itself from the manifold.  So I parked up, got a lift home and on the way popped in a pub I don’t normally frequent and had a one song, dance off with some sweet person who likes Steps (yes I was completely sober and yes I will dance at the drop of a hat to most things).  One extreme to t’other!

The weekend came and went.  I drove the car to the mechanic sounding like a tractor/motorbike; someone came and dug up a 6foot tree they wanted, but this time I didn’t offer to help; I ate a lovely vegan roast… 

It’s Monday and apart from my pushbike, I’ve now to work out transport to get to my car, where I placed her in the hands of a friend who is a mechanic.  I will adapt.

Adaptability

This is NOT an exclusive list of shit things happened /happening, but because somethings are NOT truly my business, I obviously won’t share them. 

Great

Not all great things take time, some just happen to come into existence to beautify and joyfully make our days so much better.

GreatGreat things that do take time, sometimes give joy, hope and totally beautify our days as they come into existence.

However, I’ve noticed that what some perceive as a great thing, a thing to strive for, well the day after it has passed, just like anything else, it becomes nothing.

Change is a constant.

Time always moves us on.

 

 

 

Not religious me

ReligionOther peoples religious thoughts are nothing new, they all come and go, stop then flow…

They might carry on, I might carry on or not, who knows?  The way we use and abuse the planet and all who sail on her, maybe none of us will carry on into the future…

I’ve said it before though and I swear by it:    How it’s so much easier to be tolerant of religious people, if they are kind to other sentient beings.

Genesis 1.29

Personally I am not religious, apart from my intention to religiously brush my teeth more than once a day.

 

Judge Judy

Well done Judge Judy as she got the dog to claim ownership in this clip:

Dog loose in court to find its REAL owner

I must admit, Judge Judy is a brilliant Judge, a kind and just woman who says it like it is and I have great respect for her.  The dog’s love for the bloke shone through as soon as he recognised his friend.

Judge Judy

D is for

D is forI know it sounds bad to “Dump someone”, but sometimes self preservation insists!

Other people’s words are actually nothing to do with us and it’s actually all about them.  It’s their perceptions, what’s going on with them, how they are conducting their life and they might need help with this, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to do it!

If there’s a choice of who to share OUR life with, and if someone gives us the gift of them speaking their mind or in other ways show us into their world towards us and it’s all negative, driving us crazy and making our life a misery, then making a sound choice (based on that track record) means backing off.  Note however:  If there’s a possibility of physically abuse, you will need help to leave safely and to stay safe once you have left.Same thing playingI get the feeling, that to stay in a relationship out of choice with a D track record towards you is to enable them to do the same thing over and over.  They might become more of a [Bexy turned the air blue and went all EXPLETIVES] and they might think it’s okay to be [BEXY made the air turn blue again with EXPLETIVES].

An average life span is not that long and surely living it as an enabler to a [EXPLETIVE] is a pretty crappy existence, right? and So please beloved, don’t waste your time left on this beautiful planet, but have some compassion and kindness unto your sweet self as an Equal with others!

Beloved [EXPLETIVE] be warned, if you know your being [EXPLETIVE] do something about your perceptions, question your thinking, get help, speak gratitude, get a new attitude, because if you piss people off enough, they might piss off and stay that way.

How are you?

If you ask me this question, most times I am totally willing to tell you, so beware of that.  If you want to be a part of my life, if I want to be a part of yours, then we have to communicate what’s going on in there (Bexy points mentally to her head).  That’s how interpersonal relationships and support structures are made, kept and developed.  Thing is, it takes more than one person to communicate effectively, it takes at least two:

  1. TalkerTalkers

 

  1. ListenerListeners

Most of all it takes both sides

to swap roles

frequently!!!

 

Outside memory stick

Let’s face it, I use this blog not so much to share with the world and all who sail on her as you would think, but there’s a little bit more of this being used as an outside memory stick.  To put things down (was just about to type “on paper”) so to speak.  You see, not only might I bump my noggin one day in the garden weeding or when prancing about belly dancing in the lounge laughing, but maybe being my outspoken self {{{giggles}}} when some (we won’t use expletives so early in the morning) might take it on themselves to bash me on the noggin believing their stressful thoughts about me or because of their own unmet needs as they might feel obliged to be a violent (and again we won’t use expletives so early in the morning) and to be honest I bloody well pity the buggers.  

So maybe this blog is a bit like for future reference, saving my ideas… oh geez, I was so close to using that four letter swear word @?!#!~ BANK ~@?!#!  

Oh wait:  “Why share?”  Well let’s face it not many are reading this, but still:  The World needs random kindness words, vegan recipes, peaceful thoughts shared etc and the like… regardless!  For the most part this is semi anonymous and is semi log book, semi how~to that you can pick up or put down at leisure.  Will anyone read it?  I just did (as I wrote it).  It was okay, I liked what I typed and who I am to judge thoughts that are like flying insects that land where they will.  I do however work at being kind, not only to others, but also to myself and I recommend that to anyone as a good life to practice, practice, practice that kindness and compassion.  We can all get angry, upset seeing the unkind and the uncompassionate, but we might be them if we don’t question our thoughts.

Basically, don’t just “Get a life” but “Get into being a kind life and live out that adventure, practising kindness to the very end!”

a kind life.

 

The French translation bit:

Une = A

Vie = Life

Compatissante = Compassionate