Self defining

meWell, some people want a label, crave a label and will do all sorts of crap things to be in a group labelled.  Some people on the other hand will label themselves to be seen as an individual.  I on the other hand think labels are far too restrictive, yet if in a corner however, I will for safety reasons define myself with whatever I need to.

I view myself as NOT such a self defining creature and need no label stuck tight  on me.


Threats perceived

Perceived threat mildWe’re all going to react to threats in different ways.

How we react will be an indication of where we are in relation to the threat,

who we are at the time and how we perceive everything.

Perceived threat massive

The threat suddenly appears or creeps up to us and we will react.

There is then a great need to perceive things as compassionately as possible

and not to waste any time we have, living in fear or being cruel.  World earth

Two words with their differences and yet the same:  World / Earth.   Two words with their differences and yet the same:  Me / You.

I feel that anyone who knows how to keep the sanctity of peace around them, please step up your game.

D is for

D is forI know it sounds bad to “Dump someone”, but sometimes self preservation insists!

Other people’s words are actually nothing to do with us and it’s actually all about them.  It’s their perceptions, what’s going on with them, how they are conducting their life and they might need help with this, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to do it!

If there’s a choice of who to share OUR life with, and if someone gives us the gift of them speaking their mind or in other ways show us into their world towards us and it’s all negative, driving us crazy and making our life a misery, then making a sound choice (based on that track record) means backing off.  Note however:  If there’s a possibility of physically abuse, you will need help to leave safely and to stay safe once you have left.Same thing playingI get the feeling, that to stay in a relationship out of choice with a D track record towards you is to enable them to do the same thing over and over.  They might become more of a [Bexy turned the air blue and went all EXPLETIVES] and they might think it’s okay to be [BEXY made the air turn blue again with EXPLETIVES].

An average life span is not that long and surely living it as an enabler to a [EXPLETIVE] is a pretty crappy existence, right? and So please beloved, don’t waste your time left on this beautiful planet, but have some compassion and kindness unto your sweet self as an Equal with others!

Beloved [EXPLETIVE] be warned, if you know your being [EXPLETIVE] do something about your perceptions, question your thinking, get help, speak gratitude, get a new attitude, because if you piss people off enough, they might piss off and stay that way.



Don’t assume of someone, because what one perceives of another might be more to do with how we all see differently and have different outlooks.  You could be right, but don’t assume it.

P.S.  Here’s a quote with a message:  ‘Every truth has two sides; it is as well to look at both, before we commit ourselves to either.’ ~  Aesop


Is it?

Three important questions for many things in life are:

Is it trueSo let’s test something out properly shall we:

Does the badger cull make sense in truth?  I don’t see how it does, so in my opinion NO WAY!!  and even though the NFU says it’s necessary to prevent the spread of bTB I cannot see that and so for me it’s NOT NECESSARY IN THE SLIGHTEST! (I see that perturbation could actually make it worse) and is shooting badgers in the chest and abdomen kind?  OMG what the hell do you think?!!  I say “HELL NO!” and the government needs to stop the murder of these innocent creatures now!!!

‘Despite the overwhelming result of a parliamentary debate, findings from an Independent Expert Panel and widespread opposition on scientific, humanitarian and practical grounds, the Government continues with its disastrous policy of badger culling in an attempt to eradicate bovine TB.’  – The League Against Cruel Sports

I say “STOP THE CULL!” and vaccinate!

As for the motivation of some:

bottom line


Do you ever wonder about who might have stood where you are standing, but in the past?  Maybe looking out across the landscape or some waters, the sight of which could have been a moment of sheer joy or tragic sadness.

It’s what we are thinking about at any point in time that makes the view happy, sad, joyous, tragic… and yet a little dog would take it all in for what potential it has to explore and I admire their ability to be momental (important, relating to the moment and/or momentum).



Reality as we perceive it

Perceive life well, live it and enjoy the crazy journey.

As for tonight in the Small World Theatre:  Our choreography to Pink “Fire” is practiced, yet still with plenty of individual interpretation (as is our ephemiral style).  So it could be a great moment with bits of randomness and in any case it will be an enjoyable dance in front of beloveds.  Have just created a Facebook page for supporters of our group Dragonfly Dance, only there’s nothing on it as yet.

Reality = How things actually are, rather than as they may appear in our unquestioned thoughts, this can and does includes everything that is and has been, whether or not it is observable or comprehensible.

Reality is always so much kinder than our unquestioned stressful thoughts.



Traffic light facesSo, in my past I have been oblivious and repeated hurtful words I knew nothing about.  I think there must have been times I have been insensitive without knowing, probably repeating things that have offended others.  Sadly it could very well happen again (but I truly and sincerely hope not).

I have also been on the receiving end of hateful racism (yet maybe previously I might have been too dull, to take it in as being aimed at me and I am so thankful for that youthful innocent dullness back-in-the-day).

JudgementalBasically, I have been judged by others and myself as being X, Y & Z and of course I’ve judged others much more easily as also being just as X, Y & Z!!!

So here’s a statement that might give a few ideas that pokes the mindSET bubble, to maybe incite some giggles and hopefully make some scratch their head in thought:

I’ve got to work on my racism against racists, but I’ve not quite been able to truly stop being so very judgemental against the judgemental, especially when they are judgemental against the self and the precious myself!!!


Notes on the meaning of the word [Oblivious]

  1. A learnt response to a situation (sad to say, this is my usual explanation)
  2. Unaware of things not yet learned e.g. Manners Timothy!” ~ Sorry Mother”.
  3. Blanking out things, because they don’t fit with a set of moral codes attempting to live by (usually religion causes this don’t you think?)  
  4. Too concerned, totally absorbed and mindFULL of one set of perceived needs of those we want the closest to us, to actually be able to be sensitive to other subtle perceived needs of those we perceive to be less close to us and maybe right in front of us (I currently think this is the saddest, most dangerous growth restricting obliviousness known to the human race) 😦

Here’s to being mindful in the best possible way, in kindness for all, as some are not on the same path of compassion yet and need a bit more time to mature.