With places you hate to live, with that I say you’re NOT a tree, pull up the roots and move!
As for others, don’t try to teach a hurting, self-absorbed person how to be kind. First, try to be kind to them to stop their pain, then show them how they could be kind when the pressure has gone. If however nothing changes and you can and actually want to quit, then I say “Make like a tree and leave!”
I know it sounds bad to “Dump someone”, but sometimes self preservationinsists!
Other people’s words are actually nothing to do with us and it’s actually all about them. It’s their perceptions, what’s going on with them, how they are conducting their life and they might need help with this, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to do it!
If there’s a choice of who to share OUR life with, and ifsomeone gives us the gift of them speaking their mind or in other ways show us into their world towards us and it’s all negative, driving us crazy and making our life a misery, then making a sound choice (based on that track record) means backing off. Note however: If there’s a possibility of physically abuse, you will need help to leave safely and to stay safe once you have left.I get the feeling, that to stay in a relationship out of choice with a D track record towards you is to enable them to do the same thing over and over. They might become more of a [Bexy turned the air blue and went all EXPLETIVES] and they might think it’s okay to be [BEXY made the air turn blue again with EXPLETIVES].
An average life span is not that long and surely living it as an enabler to a [EXPLETIVE] is a pretty crappy existence, right? and So please beloved, don’t waste your time left on this beautiful planet, but have some compassion and kindness unto your sweet self as an Equal with others!
Beloved [EXPLETIVE] be warned, if you know your being [EXPLETIVE] do something about your perceptions, question your thinking, get help, speak gratitude, get a new attitude, because if you piss people off enough, they might piss off and stay that way.
Well unlike another type of social media, blogging doesn’t have to have my whole name plastered all over it (though to be honest some people still do call me Bexy) or to have all my so called [Friends] to follow me or for me to make up some clever fake id name (that everyone and his wife knows is me)… Basically, we all should know by now, that if Big Brother wants to know what any of us type online, they will. Plus they’ll know who we are and where we are.
So that is that and we can either live with it and type what we are, what we think, what we want others to know… or just don’t type anything online. You see, unlike Farceblock which is like shouting “Hello World this is me take a pop”and inviting all and sundry to feel obliged to [Like] me, I am fine with putting down kind, creative things just for the intrinsic value or maybe the last blog has an accurate point too?
It’s much easier to ponder whether or not to do an action requested, but we still don’t have to and the decision is still ours. Sometimes it is better to take an option that we would prefer not to, so that we can come back to something we want to do another day, even though we know:
Kind hearts sometimes worry about what other people think of them and here’s my two penny worth on that:
One reason for a compassionate kind heart to care about the opinions of others, is that they might be recognising it as a desperate expression of an unmet need. Okay, yes, it might be a need that the compassionate person could meet and to ponder that would be kind. Only once the options have been pondered and decided on, just remember life goes on. It’s then good to look forward to meeting or not being the one to meet that persons needs. Whatever it is, to live in the peace of the here and now.
Another reason a kind heart could care about the opinions of others, is that the other someone could be right. That their opinion could be an honest perception of us and we could learn from it. Only their perceptions could also be wrong for us. So once we ponder for a short while and decide for ourselves, their opinions really aren’t our business any more.
The life of love, kindness and compassion we lead, it isn’t actually other peoples business. It’s their business to lead their life of love, kindness and compassion too. So beloveds, advance and don’t look back too much, after all none of us are going in that direction.
Life’s door needs to be open! I just edited this comment to now say: Life’s door needs to be open, but make sure it is so you can walk forward and doesn’t include letting the nutters put their boot in the door, to walk all over you! Peace is a very valuable thing and if you can block people who wish to steal it, more’s the better.